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How to be Happy!

by Karla Messier M.S.

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Everything is temporary, everything changes and guess what, that’s all right and you are going to be OK. Be like a surfer, enjoy the ride of life, and get up when you fall.

You see, the hardest experiences you encounter can bring unexpected riches. An example of this might be losing a job that wasn’t always fulfilling, only to gain a new one where maybe you meet a new best friend, or become involved in work that is deeply soul satisyfying. Perhaps you discover new talents you never knew you had. Really, how horrible would that be? We can’t control everything but we can choose what our actions are and what we decide to focus on. If we are constantly paying attention to what is not going as we planned, we become blind to what *IS* going well, and miss out on some of life’s best unplanned gifts.

Don’t become a victim. Perhaps you’ve had to move back home to live with your parents only to be reminded of all the childhood dreams you had for yourself that you haven’t yet realized. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, decide to do some of those things. Visit the pyramids if that’s what you’ve always wanted to do, take a veterinarian class if if you have always wanted to be a vet. The idea, is to get closer to what you are interested in and love. Gravitate to what you are attracted to.

Make your own way. Know who you are and what your tastes and preferences are. People often become miserable because they think they have to live up to other people’s standards. But ask yourself this, what do I value, what makes *me* happy? If you don’t know, start by making a list of the things that make you laugh and smile and start doing them or choosing situations which delight you.

Realize what you can change. As a living human being, you can decide what words you want to speak and write. You can decide what to wear, how to react, what to feed your mind, how to live, and who to invite into your life. You can begin to custom tailor your day by choosing from the abundance of choices which are already yours to make.

Everything, especially material things, are merely toys. We forget that toys are suppose to be fun when we begin obsessing over how many we have or don’t have. We all know from our childhood, that toys can break or we may grow bored with them. Recognize toys for what they are- objects that are designed to bring a form of play. But there are so many other types of play to enjoy. Don’t limit yourself. Listen to your favorite song and dance wildly in the middle of your living room, flirt and kiss or date yourself. Escape with a book that electrifies your imagination, work on being the person you’ve always wanted to be rather than lamenting on who you are not, eat your favorite decadent dessert, write an inspirational blog, create art your way, learn something new every day- it can be as simple as learning how to upload a video to you tube, decide to overcome your shyness or perfectionism. Simply stated, use the Tools of You and express yourself.

In fact, your life is one giant playground. You are bigger and better than Disney. Start exploring your capabilities, your mind, your thoughts, your feelings and actions and ask yourself what kind of delight will I create today? And don’t forget to play.

Welcome to your life. How will you live it today?

Posted by: Karla Messier

Karla Messier M.S. is a runaway renegade Psychotherapist who decided to walk the world and engage with people instead of "clients" on a soul level. She celebrates freedom and choice and savors individual expression. Karla moved from Boston, Massachusetts 5 years ago to experience an international life in Haarlem,The Netherlands. She is a seeker of like minded individuals and is always exploring new ways to delight herself and others.


  1. Pracetana dasi says:
    Monday, January 31, 2011 at 5:58pm

    The ancients, who lived in yugas gone by, knew the power of ” desire”.

    Desire , or free will, is the most precious aspect of our soul, our inner self.

    As the soul was described as being a drop of water from the ocean, containing the same quality as the ocean, or a spark of fire, similar in quality to the large blaze, we have within us an unlimited creative urge to express ourselves.

    The original source of this individual expression of the self, was manifest in ancient times through our love for the Supreme creator. The One who gave us the breath of life. To connect with the beauty, inspiration, and joy of such a union, was the original motivation behind the first yoga system in existence.

    When we free the “true self”, we find the “true union”, in the reservoir of all pleasure.

    Jaya Sri Krsna


  2. Britt says:
    Monday, November 29, 2010 at 9:02pm

    Hi Karla,

    Truly loved this posting. I would be even more happy to see and hear continual reminders and tools on how to keep up the happiness :)

    Looking forward to more of your thoughts!


    • Carli Peacock says:
      Sunday, December 5, 2010 at 1:47am

      Love you guys and miss the long chats and the energy you both create as we weave our way through the life…..so glad we can connect again in this form! xx


  3. Cristian says:
    Sunday, November 28, 2010 at 6:17pm

    Karla….wow, what can i say? You hit me right were I needed it today…what a special way to begin my birthday than listening to your voice and wise words of inspiration….I miss you girl.
    Thank you for posting this…:)


    • Karla says:
      Monday, November 29, 2010 at 7:26pm

      I’m so glad Cristian!!!


  4. Susie says:
    Sunday, November 28, 2010 at 5:50pm

    Very nice. So much unhappiness could be avoided if we all realize that choices are always with us. Thank you for the inspiration.


    • Karla says:
      Monday, November 29, 2010 at 7:25pm

      So true! Thanks for the support!


  5. Yvonne says:
    Sunday, November 28, 2010 at 3:44pm

    Thank you Karla


    • Karla says:
      Monday, November 29, 2010 at 7:23pm

      Thanks for tuning in!


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